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hospital is clearly affected in his mental and emotional being. You could also say that this individual, unlike Dorothy Allison, has not fully recovered from his emotional wounds. Now comparing the healing process of a death camp survivor and the sexual abuse of Allison is worth a whole study. Not only because the environment is totally different, but also because each individual deals with emotional wounds differently. Dorothy Allison struggles with love and her need to be loved. On page 50 she describes how she used to hide herself away from her feelings of being hurt and desperate. She would try to help other women but not herself. It took her years to admit to those feelings. On page 55 she also tells about how love was a mystery, ‘’ a curse that somehow skipped me”.

This is of course a self-protection wall she had build up over the years since her stepfather hurt her. I also think it has to do with all the women around her she saw being hurt by the men they loved. Sex however she was familiar with and she described metaphorically how love and sex were different countries to her. Now how did she exactly come to a peaceful state of mind about the matter? The question has a thousand answers. If you read between the lines you can imagine some of the things that helped her. As a rape victim for instance you feel helpless because someone else is controlling your body. The karate helps her regain control over her body both physically but more important mentally. The emotions that I described earlier (not being able to love or be loved) come when

she finally starts loving herself. Page 67 “two or three things I know for sure, and one of them is how long it takes to learn to love yourself, how long it took me, how much love I need now” describes her coming to peace with herself and her emotions. Now who am I too write about my views on global wounds and their possible healing. I myself have never had any real traumatic experiences like war, rape etcetera. A strong point that is made by Allison on page 70, is that she is the only one who can tell the story of her life and what it means. But one thing I can say is that she dealt with it after a long struggle while the victim of the poem has not. Why? Because I think some people are emotionally more flexible and have more self-realization. Some people go are more

emotionally stable and some are not. I am not comparing the two situations here, cause Allison might have not dealt with a situation like the baker. What I am saying is that if you take two individuals and put them in the same situation with the same emotional wounds, the outcome of the effect on their identities and the possible healing is probably very different. Healing emotionally from a death camp experience or sexual abuse takes time, a lot of self reflecting and talking or writing about it. In some cases people come to grips with it and some cases people don’t, like the baker. There are two or three things I know for sure; and one is that emotional wounds are dealt with in various ways. There is no right or wrong on how to deal with it. The other thing I know for sure is

that this book has given me a new sight on emotional healing and its complexity.