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women reacted far more strongly to the thought that their mates were developing strong emotional attachments to someone else (Allman 56-63). Where do emotional and physical attraction meet? The obvious answer is in a relationship, but looking before that there is a ritual that most living beings take part in. This dance that animals take part in is flirting. Most men think that they are the ones who initiate the flirting by making the first move. In all actuality, the first move may have something as simple as brief eye contact initiated by the woman. Woman are usually the ones who initiate flirting by attracting towards them to make their move. As mentioned earlier there are 52 signs that a female has in her arsenal to draw the attention of that one man that she may be eyeing.

The women who normally draw the most response in a social setting are the ones who send the most signals. Deemed universal among women: the eyebrow flash (an exaggerated raising of the eyebrows of both eyes, followed by a rapid lowering), the coy smile (a tilting of the head downward, with a partial averting of eyes and, at the end, covering the mouth), and the exposed neck (turning the so that the side of the neck is bared). Neither party in a flirtation is full dominant or submissive, there is a subtle, rhythmical, and playful back and forth that culminates in a kind of physical synchronization between two people. Still, by escalating and de-escalating the flirtation s progression, the woman controls the pace. Women are more aware than men of exactly what they do, why they do

it, and the effect it has. Just as a man may only remember what happened in the bed, the woman may remember everything leading to the bed. (Lott 42-45,72). There are many things to consider when you start a relationship and there are many different directions that your relationship could go. However, if we stopped to think about all the possibilities every time we flirted we be thinking till we are old and gray. The human mind suspends rational thought for a few moments during a flirtation to allow humans to block out considering all those possibilities to allow men and women to try and find their mate (Rodgers 37-41,64-65,67,69-70). Some of the exhilaration of flirting, of course, lies in what is hidden, the tension between what is felt and what is revealed. Flirtation often

seems to most resemble the antics of children on the playground or even perhaps the ritual peek-a-boo that babies play with their caregivers. The two groups in our culture that engage in the most sustained eye contact are mothers and infants, and lovers. The cycle of flirting takes humans in a full circle. Daniel Stern put it best, If flirting sets us off on the road to producing babies, it also whisks us back to the pleasures of infancy (Lott 42-45,72) Does the idea of Fate have anything to do with a relationship? It depends on the way a person look at it. There are two general attitudes towards relationships: believers in destiny and worshippers of growth. What one believes may dictate the course–and even the outcome–of ones own love life. Destiny Theorists, are convinced

that people are either meant for each other or not. Being in a relationship with this type of person could be dangerous because when these people find you less than perfect and are not satisfied, their relationships end in a hurry. Growth Theorists, expect closeness and compatibility to develop as they get to know their partner. They believe that with more growth, more commitment is made. There are goods and bads to both sides and either way can maintain a relationship, it just depends on personal preference. These point of views may inhibit or help you take initial attraction and flirtation to the next stage: forming a relationship (Hohn & Paul 16). According to researchers, regardless of looks at younger ages, the personality of the person has a major significance on

appearances in the future. Those who have good personalities when they are younger will be considered fairly attractive in their older years (Neimark 18). According to a poll taken worldwide, the top two mating preferences were not great looks, fame, youth, wealth, or status, but kindness and intelligence. They are love s greatest allies (Allman 56-63). This brings the point that it really doesn t matter how physically attractive one may think they are because there is most likely a person in the world who finds them attractive and would want a relationship with them. Their personality may win them a mate instead of gorgeous looks. Of course, most of these points brought up are only opinions and majority assumptions. I encourage one to draw their own opinion from their own