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not grow up right. Love is an emotion, but also an important value in a child’s life. Sue MacDonald of the Cincinnati Enquirer writes, “Unattached children will likely become loners or seek the nurturing aspects and values of another group, such as gangs (MacDonald 1A).” She goes on to quote that the capacity to care for is really tied into how you were cared for. That falls back on the fact that children need to be raised with lots of love in order to become a stable and moral person in the future to society. “Love is the basis of one’s conscience (me).” Without a conscience, a child can not learn right from wrong and learn from his/her mistakes. The amount of love shown to a child by their parents, will determine the outcome of that child’s life. Discipline is a

major factor in raising children. Discipline must be enough, but not too drastic. That is something parents must determine and is one of the hardest determinations in parenting. Too much discipline can lead to the subject of child abuse, which that turns a child into a psychological wreck, but not enough will lead into a child that will be irresponsible. Reason why the right enough discipline needs to be present is to teach a child values and responsibilities. Enough discipline must be present also to show the child that no means no and that things in life don’t always go perfect. Discipline teaches a child a very important lesson, the lesson of life. But then some parents use modes of discipline that can lead to a very important issue, child abuse. Nothing a child has done

should lead to the striking of the child. Though discipline is important, it must be controlled. There are many other forms of discipline ranging from grounding, to taking away luxuries. But when parents start taking away necessities or physically strike a child, then it is considered a form of child abuse. An abused child will not grow right emotionally or psychologically. They become adaptive to an abusing environment and think that that is how life is. They then will start abusing themselves, others, or even their own children. Then for many generations will this abuse go on in that family. Parents and discipline will control the turnout of a child’s life. It will also determine that child’s child’s life, and so on. “If children bond to a dysfunctional parents, the

children usually repeat the mistakes or adopt the emotional pitfalls of their parents. (MacDonald 1A).” It is so important to have a strong disciplinary format when raising a child, but that format must stray away from physical punishment, or abuse. It is much responsibility in finding the proper format of discipline when bringing up a child, and also imperative to the child’s future. Neglectence plays a big part in the reason why a child may grow to be psychologically unbalanced, or become a “bad seed”. Divorce, lack of love, and lack of discipline all define a neglected child. Neglectence is also considered to be a branch of child abuse. An abused child can not grow up right, no matter how much counseling or help, the abuse is always in their head and makes them

naturally bitter. It is the responsibility of two parents, to show the love and attention a child needs to function and grow right. A child needs his/her “role models” to be there when they are needed to be there and to give the love to a child, that that child needs. “Parent-child “bonding” is the first stage of caring . . . bonding is well established by age three (MacDonald A1).” When a child is neglected or bonding does not occur, children can suffer lifelong consequences. In many cases, they may be unable to trust adults feelings – including empathy and sympathy for others. They become a closed and bitter person. They know not of the warmness of love, but of the coldness of neglectence. Parents need to be there when their kids get awards in school or have a

game. The child needs to feel support from both his/her’s parents. To be there for your kids is a responsibility in parenting. A child must be happy and content, and most important, loved. If a child is neglected, he/she will not know how to love or why to love. Attention from both parents is most important when brining up a child. If the parents are divorced, abusive, non discilpliary, or do not show love, then they have a neglected child. And a neglected child is bitter, dysfunctioal, and may become psychologically unbalanced. Parents must show children the love and attention, because if they don’t, then they become responsible for the outcome of the child. It is not the child’s fault, it is the parents. When all these issues are brought up, it can only be seen how