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town, Biff goes to his father for help because he fails math and he catches Willy with another woman. Willy, tries to explain himself, ?She?s a buyer. Buys for J.H. Simmons. She lives down the hall ? they?re painting. You don?t imagine?Now listen pal, she?s just a buyer. She sees merchandise in her room and they have to keep it looking just so?She?s nothing to me, Biff. I was lonely, I was terrible lonely? (Miller 120). In contrast to Tom, Willy cheats on his wife but he feels the need to keep it a secret because he is ashamed and afraid that Linda might leave him. The element of faithfulness exhibited in the marriage breeds feelings of complete love and trust. Within the marriage of Tom and Daisy Buchanan, there exists a lack of mutual respect. This disrespect is illustrated by

Tom, who does not value the opinions of his wife. Daisy suggests going to town on a hot summer day and Tom breaks out savagely, ?I don?t see the idea of going to town?women get these notions in their heads? (Fitzgerald 114). Tom thinks he is more intellectually sound than his wife and publicly dismisses her ideas as those of a foolish woman. In addition, Daisy does not care about her husband as much as she cares about herself. Nick secretly invites Daisy over for tea to meet Gatsby and warns her, ?Don?t bring Tom? and she innocently replies, ?Who is Tom?? (Fitzgerald 81). Although Nick is her cousin, a loyal married woman should be suspicious about the motives behind being invited to tea without her husband. Instead, Daisy jokes around and pretends to not know who Tom is and

eagerly accepts the invitation because it might bring her pleasure. Moreover, Tom does not respect Daisy, which results in his need to control her. Nick observes that, ?Tom was evidently perturbed at Daisy?s running around alone, for on the following Saturday night he came with her to Gatsby?s party. Perhaps his presence gave the evening its peculiar quality of oppressiveness? (Fitzgerald 100). It is essential to Tom?s that he knows everything regarding his wife, not because he loves her, but because he thinks she will embarrass him with her promiscuous ways. The absence of mutual respect in the marriage of Tom and Daisy encourages a damaging and unequal marriage. Likewise, the marriage of Willy and Linda lacks the component of mutual respect. For instance, similar to Tom, Willy

does not respect the opinions of his wife. Linda questions whether Bill Oliver will remember Biff and Willy snaps at her saying, ?Remember him? What?s the matter with you, you crazy? If he?d stayed with Oliver, he?d be on top by now! Wait?ll Oliver gets a look at him. You don?t know the average calibre anymore? (Miller 67). Willy verbally abuses his wife belittling her at every chance he can get. Unlike Daisy, Linda values her husbands thoughts and his existence. Before Linda tells her boys about their fathers attempts at suicide, she says, ?Oh boys, it?s so hard to say anything like this! He?s just a big stupid man to you, but I tell you there?s more good in him than in many other people? (Miller 59). Linda is not ashamed of admitting her love and reverence for her husband,

which is opposite of Daisy who jokingly denies her husbands existence. Moreover, Willy also has the need to control his wife. Before Willy leaves for work, he catches his Linda mending her stockings and angrily takes them away declaring, ?I won?t have you mending stockings in this house! Now throw them out!? (Miller 39). Like Tom, Willy must control the activities of his wife right down to her daily chores because he is chauvinistic. The lack of mutual respect in the relationship of Willy and Linda causes the destruction of Linda?s self-esteem. Tom and Daisy Buchanan possess poor parenting skills, which results in an even poorer relationship with each other. For example, Tom and Daisy do not regard Pammy as an important part of their lives. Daisy has guests over for lunch and her

daughter comes in wearing a dazzling white dress. Daisy commenting on her daughters breathtaking appearance remarks, ?she doesn?t look anything like her father? (Fitzgerald 112). Daisy begrudges Pammy because she is a symbol of her and Tom?s failed marriage subsequently preventing Daisy from really loving her daughter. As well, Tom and Daisy never spend any time trying to cultivate a loving relationship with their daughter. The birth of a child is generally a time of togetherness, but at Pammy?s birth her mother says, ?she was less than an hour old and Tom was God knows where, and I woke up out of the ether with an utterly abandoned feeling? (Fitzgerald 22). Tom and Daisy do not welcome Pammy into the world with open arms and affection. They are unable to show affection towards